Clarity

[dagibbs]

The lack of it, that is. My life -- it has a bunch of this lack.

Comments

[dagibbs.livejournal.com]

True, but on 3-5 tracks in parallel?

[jmae.livejournal.com]

Yep, I know the feeling. *hug*

[dagibbs.livejournal.com]

Thank you. *hugs* back.

[jeffreyab.livejournal.com]

That you have clarity at all is quite an accomplishment.

[ironphoenix.livejournal.com]

Clarity is nice, but I actually enjoy not having it now and then.

Of course, I say that now...

Good luck!

[dagibbs.livejournal.com]

It is the quantity of lack of clarity.

[ironphoenix.livejournal.com]

*checks your age*

Ummm... I don't actually know all of the lack of clarity of which you speak, but I'm not sure I'm surprised that there is a lot of it.

And yes, I can see that freight train headed my way, a few years out. Likely for different reasons, but things seem to come to a head in the late 20's and again in the early 40's for a lot of people.

Anyway, sympathies... whether or not it's "classic", it's still rough going, I'm sure!

[dagibbs.livejournal.com]

It is mostly of the "was that a date", "are we dating", "what sort of relationship do we have" style. But, as I said, with multiple different tracks at once -- the joy of poly: you can be relationship-state-confused with several people at once!

[ironphoenix.livejournal.com]

Hmmm. Communication is good, but if people are themselves unclear on what they want, it won't (necessarily) produce clarity.

Do you have a special talent for finding or creating this? You are, after all, the common element in your relationships...

[dagibbs.livejournal.com]

I may have a special talent for it, yes. Or for choosing people with a talent for it. With gabriel_le, it was definitely her creating the confusion. With at least a couple of the people, I've asked, and we've talked, and that hasn't added clarity. Or, at least, it has removed some of the lack of clarity -- but when the person actively states they dislike labeling things and don't wish to do so -- well, that makes it more difficult for me to achieve clarity.

Mostly this state of lack of clarity amuses me, though.

[ironphoenix.livejournal.com]

The fact that you find it amusing may be a sign that you do indeed have one or both of the talents you mention. I don't tolerate it as well in relationships (there's history there, but this isn't the place to discuss it), which is perhaps why mine have tended not to have this lack for long.