Must resist...

[dagibbs]

Crush meme. Must resist. I really don't want to do that. Bad.

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[netmouse.livejournal.com]

heh. that was my reaction, too. :)

[dagibbs.livejournal.com]

I try to avoid most memes, but this one was especially insidious... maybe that person I'm secretly crushing on has a crush on me vs maybe NOBODY has or has ever had a crush on me, and I'll be devestated with a count of 0. Nope, just don't want to go there.

[pezchica.livejournal.com]

OR, as I received in my journal, someone saying,

"Yeah, like 2 years ago, but you've really let yourself go since then."

I've already mostly convinced myself that it was some weirdo who happened upon my journal and felt like being malicious.

[dagibbs.livejournal.com]

Yuck.

[pezchica.livejournal.com]

Shock was my first reaction. And, then, going through my friended people trying to decide if any of them would say such a thing. I decided they wouldn't.

[mikepictor.livejournal.com]

Yeah...I slipped briefly and answered one before I remembered that I avoid these on principle.

[dagibbs.livejournal.com]

Yeah, but she's so cute, and so hard to resist, it is perfectly understandable.

[(Anonymous)]

what makes you think no one has a crush on you? ;)

[gabriel-le.livejournal.com]

will not - terrified - cannot not - don't want to.

I don't want to have a list of people telling me of their crushes on me, and then feeling like they have more license to flirt and make advances.

No. NO. NONONONONONO.

Keep it secret, keep it hidden, keep it safe.

That was my reaction.

I totally get yours though, =).

[buttongirl.livejournal.com]

So telling you that I think you are a super cool person is a bad thing? :-D

[gabriel-le.livejournal.com]

that is something I can hear, =D.

I didn't realise though that "I have a crush on you" can be anything but "let's bang at the first opportunity." And that people who tell me that, in my mind, are automatically telling me that they are barely unrestrained sexual predators. And as soon as I slip in my defenses they will take advantage of that and me, and that it's essentially my fault if it happens - partially because I exist, partially because I'm pretty, and partially because I wasn't powerful enough to stop it.

Wow, I'm being personal.

I know this is faulty thinking, but it's there, and I haven't been totally convinced yet that the world actually operates with a different set of rules than these Christian-moralistic-doomsday thoughts I have been brainwashed with.

I still blink and have a hard time accepting times when men are given a chance to hurt me and don't.

[foms.livejournal.com]

[hugs]

I think it may have helped to produce what I think of as a peculiar reaction to me but, well...

[hugs]

[gabriel-le.livejournal.com]

yes, and thank you.

=)

[dagibbs.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[dagibbs.livejournal.com]

Interesting. I wouldn't see me telling someone I have a crush on them giving me more license to flirt with them. I would see someone telling me they have a crush on me giving me more license to flirt with them, though.

[gabriel-le.livejournal.com]

but if they tell me, and I don't seem to react negatively, and they are hoping that I flirt with them, they might start seeing "flirting" in all sorts of reactions, and then flirt more with me, once "permission" is got.

[dagibbs.livejournal.com]

Ah, ok.