An odd bit of introspection...

[dagibbs]

Yesterday evening after dinner a couple of my friends decided to go out to a store and buy some dessert for the group. After they did this, and at the end of the evening, I felt a bit guilty that I didn't offer to chip in for some of the cost of the dessert stuff they bought. Like I was contributing my share. And that they'd be upset/annoyed/think I was freeloading because I didn't offer.

Then, I realized that I also opened & shared a bottle of port with the people that were around. So I figured I was even, and it was ok.

And then I realized I had no expectation that anyone would contribute, and if anyone had offered, I'd have declined. And I'd have offered the port whether or not anyone else had bought dessert.

At which point I went, "oh".

Comments

[mikepictor.livejournal.com]

You do good host, and I for one thank you for all the good times you have facilitated at your house.

[kattale.livejournal.com]

Sometimes it's not about money. :)

[dagibbs.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

[jagash.livejournal.com]

*chuckles* I am in the same position, all the time. I just have a hard time getting the "oh" to stick.

[ironphoenix.livejournal.com]

You're a very good host, and that you worry about freeloading even when you aren't also speaks well of you!

[dagibbs.livejournal.com]

Thank you.